IT’S A GAME!
You’ve probably heard it said a lot – “Playing the dating game”. Like in board games, dating has a goal involved, lots of strategy, and of course opponents. The good thing is, there are LOTS of people out there to choose from – so it doesn’t make the game so bad. And even a bad date isn’t all that bad, when you are meeting new people, and learning about them.
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You can probably date most anyone, and live with them for a week. However, beyond that time, there could be trouble!
There was an episode on the TV series “Friends” in which Joey and Chandler (being roommates) got into a fight, and they decided to no longer be roommates. Chandler pulled in another roommate named “Eddie” – and it didn’t go well. What was the problem? Compatibility. So before too many commercial breaks occurred, Joey was back being a roommate of Chandler’s.
The things in life you find compatible with someone, the better the changes of a long lasting relationship.
You’ve all heard it said “A relationship is all about compromising”. Well, that could be true – but also this: The more one is compatible with a person, the fewer compromises that needs to happen. It’s all about agreements. If you agree on a lot of things (naturally, not forced), things go smoother and easier. If there are a lot of areas of life in which there isn’t much compatibility, then it could be a rocky road.
It’s best to look at many areas of our life, and see how compatible they are with the person you want to have a relationship with. Maybe there are a lot of areas of incompatibility and you still want to be with them – but at least you know the areas that need to have more attention and communication about – so there are no surprises later on. Most areas of incompatibility can be resolved just by talking about it. Maybe a few comprises in some areas – but at least both of you are aware of the differences, and can love the differences in each other.
If you have read and and tried out the “Dating Tip #5 – Compatibility”, let us know how it’s worked for you. We’d love to hear your ideas or comments.
You can’t say too much about this. It’s probably the single most difficulty that people face in relationships, if it isn’t looked at and evaluated carefully.
It’s good practice to simply watch people when you are out and about in life. How are different people reacting to those around them? Are they happy, sad, upset, disinterested? And how are people responding to these people and how they act?
The more you check people out, and decide on their emotional levels, the better you will be at checking the same thing out during a date. Really look at that person you are dating, and bring up various subjects, like what their work is, their goals are, how they feel about dogs or cats, how they feel about the government, etc. What emotions are they showing when they discuss these different things. Do they get upset with you? Do they show excitement when talking about their work, or feel depressed about it, or bored about it? What’s their attitude toward children in general?
A lot of times, their emotions that they display with you, are the emotions that you will be seeing a lot of, when you get into a relationship with them. Some people put their good foot forward when they are on the first dates, so you really have to see if there’s an emotion that’s being hidden. So it’s good to ask a lot of questions, and see if you can get honest answers, and true emotions coming from them.
It’s fun to look over people, and try and determine what their emotional levels are – the better you are at it, the better you will be at finding and choosing “Mr. or Ms. Right”!
If you have read over and tried out the “Dating Tip #4 – Emotional Level”, feel free to tell us what you think of it below – we’d love to hear from you!
Dating tip: “Pre-date” before dating
Many people have made the comment after a date: “Why did I spend so much time and money on this date that I was on, because we weren’t a match at all? I couldn’t wait to get out of it.”
That situation is easily resolved, if you plan your first “date” or “pre-date” to go to a coffee show and talk for a bit over coffee, tea or cookies? Things don’t go well, you can easily excuse yourself, and plan something else for the day. If you plan an expensive evening at a restaurant, the date could take a few hours, and cost a lot by the time it is done.
Simply arrange a quick little coffee shop get together, and see if you are compatible with the person your found interesting on the dating service. If things go well, you can always plan other things together afterwards.
If you have read and tried out “Dating Tip #3 – “Pre-date” before dating”, let us know how it worked for you. Or if you have any comments about it, feel free to enter them below.
Dating tip: Promote!
Businesses and companies sure know a lot about this – promote. They want to pull people in to buy their services and products. It isn’t too different when it comes to a person looking for and wanting to pull in their dream. There’s a lot of people out there – so it’s just a matter of getting their attention by promoting. Much like a company places advertisements to get people’s attention – in the dating world, it’s putting a profile on a dating service to get the same result.
How many ads have you seen or heard on TV or the radio, and felt they were not very good? Then again, some of them might have been very clever and good, and maybe it made you want to go out and buy their products. The same thing with your profile. Creating a boring profile about yourself is much like a boring advertisement you see on the TV or radio. So you need to come up with exciting things to say about yourself in your profile, and put up photos that really make you look good and appealing to people. The nice thing about profiles, is that you can change them anytime you want. If what you say a certain way about yourself isn’t pulling in any interest from a people, then change it up, and try communicating it a different way. Or try different photos of yourself, and see if you get a different response with one photo compared with others.
If you have read and tried the “Dating Tip #2 – Promote!”, let us know how it worked for you. Or if you have any comments to add about it, we’d love to hear from you!