Probably the most important tip in dating – in fact in anything you do in life – is finding out the emotional level of the person you are sizing up for a relationship.
What is his/her emotion with regard to you, his friends, your friends, children, his job, pets, and his/her general view of life?
Here is a list of different emotions one can have, from highest to lowest:
Hidden anger or resentment
A person can certainly jump around to different emotions depending on the situation and circumstances. However, what is their usual emotion? The lower the emotions that a person is usually in, the more trouble you are going to have with them. Are they fun sometimes, but usually moody, controlling, dominating or invalidating? That wouldn’t be good. The earlier you can spot these things in an individual and leave them behind, the better off you will be.
Look for people who are happy and cheerful in life – and you will find life will be a lot easier and fun for you.
SIZING UP YOUR PROSPECT
Another good policy is the following: It’s better to make sure you’re both a good match AS YOU ARE, rather than hope for changes to occur. People can change, but one cannot be sure that they will or know how long it might take to bring about those changes.