You can probably date most anyone, and live with them for a week. However, beyond that time, there could be trouble!
There was an episode on the TV series “Friends” in which Joey and Chandler (being roommates) got into a fight, and they decided to no longer be roommates. Chandler pulled in another roommate named “Eddie” – and it didn’t go well. What was the problem? Compatibility. So before too many commercial breaks occurred, Joey was back being a roommate of Chandler’s.
The things in life you find compatible with someone, the better the changes of a long lasting relationship.
You’ve all heard it said “A relationship is all about compromising”. Well, that could be true – but also this: The more one is compatible with a person, the fewer compromises that needs to happen. It’s all about agreements. If you agree on a lot of things (naturally, not forced), things go smoother and easier. If there are a lot of areas of life in which there isn’t much compatibility, then it could be a rocky road.
It’s best to look at many areas of our life, and see how compatible they are with the person you want to have a relationship with. Maybe there are a lot of areas of incompatibility and you still want to be with them – but at least you know the areas that need to have more attention and communication about – so there are no surprises later on. Most areas of incompatibility can be resolved just by talking about it. Maybe a few comprises in some areas – but at least both of you are aware of the differences, and can love the differences in each other.
If you have read and and tried out the “Dating Tip #5 – Compatibility”, let us know how it’s worked for you. We’d love to hear your ideas or comments.